While in some cases the causes for a divorce is a single and shocking event, in many cases divorce simply happens when people grow apart. If you find that you have simply grown apart from your spouse, here are some tips to help you navigate the divorce in good faith.
Allow some time
If you are looking to get a divorce, it's best to give your partner some time to adjust to the news. If you leave it longer and the divorce request comes up when you are looking to re-partner, this can complicate the negotiation process. Allowing some time can let your partner see how you plan to act post divorce and let them see that there is no malice in your actions. If you have children and want to negotiate shared custody, showing your dedication to continued shared parenting can be useful for your ex-spouse, as we'll as being usable in any future court hearings.
While you are starting the process of separation and divorce it is useful to keep records of relevant dates of conversations and copies of any emails or other messages you send including the time and date of any counselling sessions. While it might feel like this is not needed, it can be relevant later on if there is a disagreement over the point that various matters, including financial settlement and child custody, have been established and agreed upon. Keeping as much information as possible recorded can keep matters more simplified and prevent disagreements.
Get legal advice
Even if your intention is to keep matters in good faith, it's prudent to seek legal advice so that you are fully aware of your rights. This can allow you to sensible and informed decisions about what settlements you reach with your ex-spouse. In many cases seeking early advice helps to minimise stress further down the line.
Communicate your decisions as a couple
If you want the divorce to be on good terms, one of the most effective tools you have is communicating the same story together. Work with your ex-spouse to negotiate times to talk to your children, extended family and other parties such as schools and doctors about your intention to divorce on good terms.
If you are looking to divorce your spouse on good terms, you should leave plenty of time to communicate and negotiate. Getting legal advice from a family law firm and being aware of your rights helps you to make sensible and informed decisions.